Reach out to a mate, a family member, your GP, Bruno your barber… the neighbours cat. Just make sure you tell someone. It can be as simple as saying ‘I’m feeling bad, need to talk’.
You’ve got a better chance of getting bitten by a snake than meeting someone who hasn’t been affected by mental health in some way.
We know it’s an awkward thing to bring up with your mates but just pick 1 or 2. Building a support network makes a huge difference and knowing someone is there for you at all times can be a life-changer.
If you’re worried about work, see if your employer has mental health care leave. It’s a lot more common nowadays for offices to be supportive of this - if not, screw them, you come first, chuck a sickie, get yourself back on track.
Sorry to hear, mate. It’s absolutely devastating to lose anyone, let alone to suicide, and we can imagine things are pretty tough.
When someone dies by suicide, research shows that at least 6 people are intimately traumatized by the death.
Losing someone to suicide can have a huge impact on your mental health. Good work for reaching out and getting yourself here.
Go easy on yourself and take some time out
Accept support from your mates and family.
Talk about them, share memories, write to them, laugh about the fun, the dumb and the ridiculous times you shared.
Keep maccas drive through to once a week (or at least downgrade the 24 nuggets to 12), but seriously eat well, exercise, try to sleep and really, really try fight the temptation of having a blow out. Drugs and alcohol won’t do you any favours right now.
Suicide Call back service is for those who have just lost someone to suicide too - 1300 659 467 (24hr bereavement support)
Read the Survivors of Suicide Booklet
Don’t panic - these are actually really great. Sharing your experience with others who have been through similar shit will help you realise you are not alone, there are ways forward.
Thank your bus driver. Do an act of compassion for someone else. There’s no better feeling than when you feel like you’ve done some good and helped someone else.
As men, we’re wired to try to fix problems on our own.Instead of calling a plumber, we use super glue to plug a leak. Instead of calling an electrician we use duct tape to fix a broken socket. Instead of calling a therapist… well, we might resort to silence, a schooner or some reckless activities. Stop treating your brain like a leaky toilet or a flickering light bulb. We need to chat about these things. Onward you go!
If you get a mental health care plan from your GP, seeing a psychologist for 10 sessions is actually quite affordable.
Check out what the mental health care plan is all about here.
Feeling down can be overwhelming. You might not believe us when we say it right now - but you will get past this.
Let your health professional know (whether it be your GP or your psych) that you don’t feel like it’s working. They can’t help unless they know.
Good things you can do are:
Note down your progress
Trust the process know it takes time
Know it usually takes a few goes beofre finding what works for you. Keep at it
Sometimes it can get worse before it gets better, please push through
Recovery is a slow process, but that doesn't mean you're not moving forward
Trust us, there are ways to feel better.
We’re not talking about band-aid solutions either, we want to help you get to the bottom of your shit, sort it out and move forward.
Taking some time out and getting professional help at a mental health facility can be a really great idea. There are both private & public mental health facilities available. There are two ways you can be admitted to a mental health facility, either voluntarily admitted or involuntarily admitted. This guide, from NSW Government Health explains the in’s and outs of each.
Day facilities are also available. Your best bet is to Google ones in your area, and ask your GP. Note; some of these can be a bit pricey, but private health can cover it depending on your policy.
Because of how mental health facilities have been portrayed in popular culture in the past, the idea can be a bit daunting. Read some stories from guys who have found it to be a really helpful experience.
Find out more info on your states mental health act and policies:
Good mates step up and get involved. Take action!
It can be tough but you need to find a time where you can chat to your mate in private and ask him how things are going. He could just be thinking about why Rose didn’t let Jack on the door at the end of Titanic, but what if it’s something more serious?
You might think having a schooner is the easiest way to chat to your mate - before you head straight to the pub, keep in mind the negative impact alcohol can have on mental health.
Studies show these convos are easier for men to have in side to side non-confrontational activities. Try going for a drive with them, a walk, a surf or playing a game of golf.
Your mate needs to be comfortable opening up to you. And you could be the first person he has told.
Assess the situation and remind your friend that you will help get them through this.
Ask the question. Be direct. See if they are ok and ask if they have had suicidal thoughts.
Make sure they seek professional help. Offer to go with them.
Normalise what they are experiencing and reassure them it is not uncommon.
Check in with how they are going. If they weren’t ready to talk, let them know you’re ready when they are.
Work’s shit, relationships can be rocky, you’re injured, dropped from your sport team or you’re just feeling rougher than a lizards tongue. It’s time to focus on yourself.
Don’t hesitate to go to your GP. Check out where you can go for help
It’s as cliché as giving full credit to the boys after a big win on the footy field but it’s so important to eat well, exercise and sleep.
Can’t sleep? Check out these apps.
Try meditation. It’s mental hygiene. (We love the Headspace app. It’s no bullshit meditating - with sessions as little as 3 minutes)
Surround yourself with good people.
Try new things...Starting some new hobbies can be the be the easiest way to reinvigorate the mind, meet some new people and freshen up your perspective.
Positive psychology is the scientific study of what makes life worth living.
Throughout history, most of psychology has been concerned with asking the question ‘what’s wrong with you’.
The goal of positive psychology is to make your everyday more fulfilling and focuses on ‘what’s right with you’.
It’s aimed to compliment, not replace traditional psychology.
It explores that strength is just as important as weakness and it’s just as important to build on the best things in life, as to repair the worst.
Accept life can be tough and hurt sometimes, but it’s your attitude and resilience that can help shape how you navigate through.
Write down each day what you’re grateful for. If we get stuck on negative events it’s easy to lose perspective. Writing down good things helps you to focus on the positive things in your life.
Practice optimism as an attitude. When you master ‘optimism’ you understand good things are coming and that the bad things do pass.
Count kindness gestures.
Record three funny things that happen each day.
“Gift” your time - offer the gift of your time to three mates or someone in need each week. This might be in the form of time spent helping a mate move house or sharing a meal with someone who seems lonely.
Make a special effort to thank a mate who’s been there for you.
Here are some stories from Mighty Minds who have learned to live with, manage and now share their stories of how they have lived with mental ill-health. If you’re keen to share your story, get in touch!
"I'm a massive believer that men need each other. I can't wait to see more men talking about the inner struggle, about wellness."
"Being open with how certain situations make you feel and being able to express that in a comfortable environment is critical to becoming self aware"
Too many young Aussie men are suffering in silence.
While there are some fantastic initiatives and programs, mental health is more important than just a one day a year, or one month a year campaign.
Might & Mane promotes positive mental health habits and gets men checking in on their mental health as often as they get their hair cut.
The great thing is, when we train a barber, they’re trained in safe conversation for life.
A barber sees roughly 16 clients a day, five days a week. Therefore, for every 20 barbers trained, we’ll reach around 8,000 Australian men. If they get their haircut 10 times a year - that’s 80,000 opportunities for empowered conversations.
Our dream is that every suburb and town has, if not every barbershop is, a trained and certified safes pace for men to discuss mental health and access services.
If you’d like to get in contact with us and/or you’re a barber and keen to join the Might & Mane community, please send us an email at:
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What we don't do
Might & Mane is not the place for detailed information and advice. There are plenty of organisations that can give you guidance — and we’ll point you to some of the best.
We don’t list individual GPs, psychologists, or other mental health professionals. We focus on digital services and resources. If you need to talk to a health professional in person for specific advice and assistance, use the healthdirect service finder to find professionals near you.